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2 KAUA‘I MIDWEEK OCTOBER 6, 2021
Alice Inoue
ICultivating Gratitude
t’s hard to feel gratitude when things are not going well. Could the cause of ungratefulness be a disconnection from perspective? When
things are flowing, we feel connected and it’s easy to feel grateful. When they aren’t, we focus on what’s wrong, get frustrated and disconnect from the flow.
To increase gratitude, it helps to intentionally use big-picture thinking by looking for connection. For example, writers block is frustrating. When I feel it, if I begin thinking about everyone involved in making the keyboard that I’m using, the mouse I’m touching, and the monitor I’m looking at, and think of all the frustration that they must have faced in making these things, I begin to feel connection. Before I know it, my words are flowing, and I am grateful.
alice@yourhappinessu.com
CHASING THE LIGHT
with Beth-Ann Kozlovich
One of the truths I learned from my grandmother is
Facing The Unthinkable
“The moment that you accept your life as it is, is the moment you start to change your life.” — Rasheed Ogunlaru
less, prayers for his well-be- ing, sobriety and safety will bookend my days.
Beth-Ann Kozlovich is Sutter Health Kahi Mohala’s director of communications and public relations. She is the former Hawai‘i Public Radio Talk Shows execu- tive producer, creating and hosting “Town Square” and “The Conversation.” She serves on the Rotary Club of Honolulu board of direc- tors and chairs Hawai‘i Arts Alliance.
Chasing The Light is pro- duced by Lynne Johnson and Robin Stephens Rohr.
that anyone who tells you her life has turned out as she planned is probably lying. Another is that despite out- ward appearances, everyone is likely dealing with some- thing, so act kindly.
Seeing a homeless person reminds the author that everyone is someone’s child.
we had done everything — perhaps too much — to help him. I learned that addictive brains don’t listen to reason, that they come from all so- cioeconomic backgrounds and that they are part of the full range of human expres- sion. I stopped judging my- self and judging him. As I coped better with my son’s homelessness, I was able to help others with a lighter heart, and, as my English grandmother learned during the Blitz, to carry on with my life.
I am no different. I can tell you with absolute certainty that never did I remotely consider that I would be- come the mother of a home- less son. Yet, here I am.
series I and my team did during my career at Hawai‘i Public Radio, facing daily life is different knowing that my unwell and homeless son is somewhere in Honolulu. I remind myself that he is funny and kind, and so spa- tially gifted that once he or- ganized my refrigerator and pantry so well that it hasn’t looked that good since.
Until recently, I’ve re- frained from talking pub- licly about my now-adult son. For years, I partitioned my energy between my pro- fessional life and working to help my son fix his life. Eventually, I realized that he wasn’t the one to fix; it was me. I had honest conversa- tions with myself. I knew
It looks better in print than in practice. Despite all the segments, shows and
I am deeply grateful to my 16-year sober husband, Bill Sage, and to those in our community who under- stand, care and try to help. I know that my son may or may not choose to make his life healthy, and that regard-
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